Friday, November 20, 2009

An interesting "First" for mom today...

Levi was upset about something today and turns out it was something a friend had said to him. He started to talk and all my therapy "skillz" kicked in...well, as well as they could while cooking dinner and dealing with Sam and Seth crying! I started asking questions and trying to tell him what I understood he was saying. It took me FOREVER just to get the story straight, but finally figured out that Levi didn't want to play a game and his friend said "you need to play the game or I won't play with you anymore". Levi adores this boy and the friend is a good boy, so I was talking to Levi about how he could talk to the boy, make his feelings known and not hurt the boy's feelings.

Anyway, I was calm and loving on the outside. On the inside, I wanted to throttle the friend and confront the parents for causing my baby to be sad. I have not dealt with this before! Is this how this goes? Do other moms feel like this or do I have some *serious* control issues? Levi is a sweet boy and a follower. He is not the one to lead or to come up with the ideas of things to do. He is a people-pleaser!

Another point is that I am SO GLAD that Levi felt like he could talk to me. That is one of the things that I really want with my kids. Open-ness and acceptance. After it was all said and done, about 10 minutes later, Levi came up, put his arms around my waist, and said, "Thanks for the good advice, mom." What a sweetie!

4 comments:

Debbie, Lee, Rachele and Kenny said...

Yes I have felt the "rage." It is funny how it happens. It just seems to take over but the voice of reason takes over.

Jennifer said...

Was it Abram? Please tell me if it was. Olivia has learned that from school (another reason to homeschool) and she had brought it home. Telling her brothers if they don't do what she wants she won't play with them. It's a lesson we are constantly talking about. I'm so sorry if it was Abram.

Angela and Ethan said...

Anna, I think your internal reaction was "normal", and I have felt the same way in a similar situation with Anna (my Anna :). Good job staying positive and helpful while talking with him. Way to put your therapy skills to use. And Levi is such a sweetie, it makes me sad to think of someone saying something that would hurt his feelings. :(

Anna said...

No, Jenn. Not Abram or anyone else's kids that may read my blog. I didn't think about someone thinking it was their kids! Also, I really love this kid and his family, so I was blogging to talk it out and see if I dealt with this *new* thing right or not. My baby is growing up!